Body Language Expert Reveals Tips for First Dates

Fletch, Vaughan & Megan spoke to body language expert and analyst Suzanne Masefield after First Dates NZ aired on TV. They were keen to hear her top tips for the right things to do on dates (and things like job interviews!)

Enjoy it as an experience

Don't have an attachment to the outcome of the date/interview/experience. Get something out of it personally from a growth point of view. That way, you will always gain from the experience - even if there is no second date from it. 

Attraction isn't always about what you look like

By you doing certain things, you will feel more attractive. If you feel attractive, you are attractive. As long as there is a mutual attraction and energy there, you have a chance.

Be confident

But don't be over confident. It's about "presence" and being comfortable enough in your own skin. 

Use your body to give your full attention

Your feet are a big indicator of where your attention is. Face your feet towards them. And your head, chest and belly button. This shows you're interested and paying attention to the other person. Use your eye contact. But don't stare at the person until they're uncomfortable. Lack of eye contact is a vulnerability thing - if you struggle with this, get your logical brain into gear. Look into their eyes long enough to get the colour of their eyes. This will calm you down. Do this, look to the side and then look back at them.  

Listen to the full interview below: