This is considered to be the best age to get married

Publish Date
Friday, 25 August 2017, 2:46PM
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Photo: Getty Images

In this day and age with marriages not tending to last as long, it makes you consider all factors that might help your marriage last the difference, including age. 

The best age to get married, according to researchers, is between 28 and 32.

Conducting your nuptials during this so-called "Goldilocks Age", as University of Utah academics have coined it, apparently results in the lowest chance of divorce across all age groups.

Not surprisingly, the highest divorce rates come from those who wed in their late teens or early twenties. It's easy to see why. Few know themselves at that age, or have had enough life or relationship experiences to understand their commitment fully.

It's not really until we approach 30 (a little later for some) that we start to feel comfortable as adults. We're all at least five years out of university, if not almost 10. We've all lived away from our parents for a long time. Most have travelled and experienced different cultures and values.

Perhaps most importantly, between the ages of 28-32 we have learned "how" to be in a relationship.

That is, by the time you reach the end of your twenties, it's highly likely you've had a couple of long-term relationships. You've learned how to compromise, how to adjust expectations, and how to always have someone else's needs at the forefront of your mind.

It's also very probable you've had your heart broken at least once by this age.

It is only in having our hearts broken (once, twice, three times...) that we're able to reflect on what we don't want in a relationship. We learn what a "bad guy" or girl is, and how to pick up on this early on. We learn about negative behaviours and how to either address them or get out before they become too harmful.

In essence, it can take a couple of solid, devastating break-ups to learn not just how to be a good partner, but who will make a good partner for you.

The University of Utah research also suggests that those who marry in their mid-thirties (or later) have a similarly high chance of divorce as those in that late teens/early twenties bracket.

One suggested reason for this is people become "stuck in their ways" of single life and are less accommodating in a marriage after a certain age. Hence the "Goldilocks" period of 28-32: apparently it's the time when you're "just right" for marriage.

Research by market analytics company Gallup shows that the rate at which twenty-somethings marry has halved in just the last 10 years. In 2005, 32 per cent of people between 18-29 were married. Today, it's only 16 per cent.

 

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